ENVY

Your envy is trying to tell you something.

Envy can be the key to understanding the things you wish you had.

There are two types of envy, the one that hurts you and the one that changes you. Here we are going to talk about the life changing type. The envy that makes you stop and self-reflect, that is asking you to reevaluate what it is that you want.

I believe envy is a fantastic way to identity what is missing in our own lives and unlock what we truly want. Envy often gets packaged as jealousy, but these are two vastly different things. Envy means you desire something while jealousy is the feelings of resentment that comes from that desire. Envy without resentment is what we are aiming for here. It is the discontented or longing feeling aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck. 

We tend to avoid envy and rarely want to admit that we envy others, but parts of envy can be incredibly helpful in understanding ourselves. If we are only viewing envy as a negative then we will never be able to understand our own longings, we will never be able to uncover the things that we truly want and need. I have found that it is often the thing that is triggering us most that needs our attention. Have you ever stopped to think about who you envy and more importantly why? Envy can be a useful way to recognize in ourselves what we truly value.

Reflection Questions

What if envy is trying to deliver you back to yourself?

What if envy is a huge flashing arrow pointing you toward what you truly want?

What is your envy trying to tell you?